It’s not that there isn’t anything wrong with her, but there are some problems that I want to address and talk about.

To be talked about

1. Sex rhythm is less and I find myself in a position where I can’t ask for it or it’s awkward to ask for it.
   
   Let me break this down:
   
   Why do I think sex rhythm is less? Because I know her libido is once or twice per week. And she had all kinds of condoms with her from her last relationship. That means she was clearly into a lot of sex and the point is that there is some level of libido.
   
   So, yes, certainly I am somewhere benchmarking my frequency expectation to what she told me. Because I never had a frequency like that, clearly, it is not something that I expected.
   
   It is just like a race: If you did something with your ex, then you should do more or as much with me; otherwise, I feel you like me less.
   
   Why can’t I ask for it or why do I feel awkward asking for it? That’s because earlier between 16th Aug and some 26th Oct when we should have had it at least twice or thrice at a natural rhythm, she defined the pace, told me that she was not comfortable while she kept dropping me all the hints.
   
   So, in a way, the pace is determined by her. And I have realized that it is true in all relationships. The pace is defined by the girl, I also saw that Salman Khan reel from Big Boss that no matter who you are, the pace is defined by the woman.
   
   Which means in the case of her ex, it is her who asked for weekly sex and all that. And in my case she doesn’t.
   
   Change of perspective:
   
   How can I change my perspective on this? Is there a different way to look at it?
   
   See, the fact is that the pace is always governed by the woman. Even if in the last relationship she was having sex with her ex everyweek, be sufficiently sure that she was asking for it and not the other way round. Or, in some cases it is also possible that the guy is extremely charming and makes the woman ask for more.
   
   In both cases, it is the woman who governs the pace.
   
   The point is – no matter who you are – the woman will determine this pace. And you as a man can only work towards building more attraction for yourself so that indirectly you can affect this pace.
   
   Also, please don’t compare your speed with the speed of their ex.
   
   The sad reality is that the attraction is different, life priorities could be different and moreover in the equation she is trying to form with you, she needs to speak to you more (is it something I am trying to explain myself?)
   
   Anyway, the answer is work on yourself, work on building your attraction.
   
2. I will add more to this…