I realized this morning that I was getting unnecessarily bitter about my girlfriend. Despite her being a lovely person, I have been only looking at the negatives in her which were making me dissatisfied in the relationship.

The fact is I questioned whether they were even negatives? Maybe my mind needed a perspective shift to make light of the situation and actually appreciate the person she is.

Here are the things that were making me bitter:

1. The same story of delayed sex. Now we/she is planning a trip to a different city in mid-November, but my only question is why do you have to go to a different city to have sex? When we could have easily done it in the same city. So, this was bothering me. But then I understood her trauma is deeper. She would not want to have sex with anyone at this point because of the trauma she is facing from her last relationship.
2. I was finding flaws in the fact that she never asked me about my day. Never. So, now I have started to share less and less. Is that good? I don’t think so.
3. I was finding flaws in that she started to reply late and not tell me where she was…which I thought was a basic in a relationship.
4. Getting disturbed by the fact that her boyfriend was tall (6 feet), fair, had a better body, and that he looked like her father and even shared the same birthday.